I’ve been a parent long enough to know that you clicked on this post because you are desperate to do something in your home. The fighting is out of control. They don’t share, don’t care, and honestly it seems beyond repair.
You’re not alone. This is the single most common concern of parents through our blog! It’s hard to live with another person. Even harder when you are learning how to navigate life and how to behave in a manner that pleases the Lord! We are selfish by nature and it takes a lot of growing, dying to self, and a LOT of Jesus to beat that. We need to give our kids some grace here and understand their plight.
But we want to be careful not to throw up our hands and insist that siblings were made to hate each other. It’s not true! We CAN help our children develop strong relationships with their siblings AND we can stop the fighting. It all starts with teaching. Anything that we want our kids to become has to begin with a foundation of knowledge and wisdom that we give them as parents. The sibling relationship is no different.
If you are struggling, the posts mentioned above have lots of practical tips for doing this. Take a minute and read those first, then come back here for this super fun printable. Okay?
So, if we are going to teach our kids to love one another, we need to give them practical tools for making that happen. We can’t assume that our kids think of these things on their own, so we need to be helping them on a regular basis. This will look different for each kid, each family, and each situation. It might be mom whispering an idea in one child’s ear. It could be starting a tradition at dinner where you take turns complimenting one “person of the day” each day. (Yes, it will be shallow to start off with, but with practice the kids will get better.)
The key is to be intentional about giving your kids the tools they need!
I want to help you (ahem, and me) with this super fun printable. It is just a simple list of 14 ways to love your siblings. No supplies needed. Nothing fancy. If your children are over age 8, they should be able to read it themselves and color in a heart when the activity is completed. If you have a younger child, you can read the choices to your child and help them pick a good one each day. Then have them color in the heart when it’s completed.
I am planning to have my kids keep these in their homeschool folders to remember each day (or as often as we can) to look at the list and find a way to show love to one of their siblings. Another idea would be to have them hang it on the back of their closet door or somewhere in their room.
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