It’s Valentine’s Day, just before closing. Dark, but glimmering with lights. Their eyes meet as the music plays on our senses. Atop the Empire State building, the breeze gently blows her hair. ”Are you Annie?” he asks. ”Are you Sam?” she echoes. The guard clears his throat and the moment becomes unbearable. ”We had better go” Sam declares. Seconds seem like an eternity until he reaches out for her hand.
Our hearts melt and the tears flow as this widowed man grasps the hand of the woman that he fell in love with through a radio talk show. Together they melt away into happily ever after. (Scene from Sleepless in Seattle 1993)
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Inside I long for this kind of love. I dream about it. Even try to calculate and manipulate it.
But it NEVER happens like this. There is no such thing as happily ever after. The prince is not going to ride in on a white horse and sweep me away and, besides, I don’t even have glass slippers.
Hollywood and Disney have distorted and corrupted that which is called love. The truth is, real relationships…are hard. Everyone marries a sinner (Rom 6:23). Selfishness dominates our hearts and problems are inevitable.
But, somehow happily-ever-after invades the mind. Dreams of greener grass seem more reasonable and dissatisfaction sets in. It’s controlling lives. It’s killing marriages, destroying children, and scandalously driving souls into depression.
Many marriage experts are attributing much of our dissatisfaction in marriage to the over saturation of media.
They (romantic movies) help create an image of “fantasy love” that undermines the holiness and commitment necessary to build a solid, godly relationship with your spouse. ~David Boehi, Focus on the Family
This has been heavy on my heart as we entered February. In just 6 very short days, our nation will celebrate Valentine’s Day.
The trouble with Valentine’s Day is that it’s a give-me holiday. The whole purpose is to prove your love through thoughtful gifts or actions. ”What can you give me” is the question of the day. It’s certainly marketed that way. The pressure to please your spouse is extremely high.
Whether lonely and hurting or married and trying, the expectations that precede Valentine’s day make it virtually impossible for anyone to feel loved. Instead many are left feeling unsatisfied or broken. It might never be enough. Thoughtful gifts are quickly tossed aside as we covet what someone else got. TV jingles ring in our ears… “every kiss begins with Kay” and we deem ourselves deprived that our kisses don’t involve diamonds.
God says life is all about how I love others through him. This includes February 14th.
Too many tears have been wasted on this lie. Too many hearts destroyed by this fantasy. I’m ready for a change.
It’s time to throw out the expectations and love recklessly, compassionately, and without hesitation.
What about you? Have you found that media offers a skewed view of love?
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