The words of the reckless pierce like swords,
but the tongue of the wise brings healing. Proverbs 12:18
It’s easy to agree that the words of others can greatly damage our feelings of self worth. They pierce our very being. But has it ever crossed your mind that perhaps the words you say to yourself are just as deadly?
I am not a good mom. I’m a failure of a wife. My house is a pig sty and my dinner is always overcooked. I’m fat and I never look good in my clothes. All of my friends just use me and my kids laugh behind my back.
Ok, maybe that is taking it a bit too far, but can you relate at all? Do you find that you are your own worst enemy?
In college, I read about a study where researchers took a kitten from it’s mom at birth and put it in the chicken coop. The goal was to see if the kitten would assimilate to “chicken life” or not. The result? Shockingly, it did. The kitten would walk around pecking at the ground and eating grain. It believed that it was a chicken.
After my precious friend called me out on some negative self talk yesterday, I remembered the chicken lesson. If I believe that I am a chicken, I will think, talk and behave like a chicken. I am what I think I am. My ability is directly correlated to my belief. If I believe I am a daughter of the King, I will think, talk and behave like a daughter of the King.
This truth isn’t just found in God’s word. It is also supported by numerous studies.
According to Mayo Clinic, positive self-talk and thoughts has many great benefits:
- Increased life span
- Lower rates of depression
- Lower levels of distress
- Greater resistance to the common cold
- Better psychological and physical well-being
- Reduced risk of death from cardiovascular disease
- Better coping skills during hardships and times of stress
I hope you didn’t miss the second half of that verse. But the tongue of the wise brings healing. (Prov 12:18) My words have the power to MAKE or BREAK me. I can choose piercing or healing. The choice seems obvious.
It’s time to think, talk, and behave like a daughter of the King.
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