There is no wisdom, no insight, no plan that can succeed against the LORD. Proverbs 21:30
The destruction of adultery nearly took another family down.
The explosive discovery lead to what seemed like the end. He left and she felt hopeful that this was the end of 20 years of chaos. But God…had other plans.
Pam was quickly prompted by the Holy Spirit through the words of her daughter and she began praying for the restoration of her family.
Eight months later, the divorce went through and she lost hope. She met another man. One that seemed perfect. People told her how blessed she was that God had provided for her by giving her another husband. But, Pam was unable to live with the guilt. She knew that this wasn’t God’s plan. Although the grass was quite nice in this pasture, the conviction fell heavy on her heart. Yes she had been divorced. Dismissed despite her desire to reconcile, but God had never permitted her to remarry.
Meanwhile, God was working on the other side of the mountain. The Lord had frustrated the adulteress relationship and it crashed and burned. Micah’s heart was beginning to turn back toward his children.
And he will turn the hearts of fathers to their children… Malachi 4:6
One night, Pam had a dream that Micah had come into her room, laid his hand on her thigh and said, “I just really miss you guys.” Then, he got up and walked out of the room. The dream was so vivid that it stuck in Pam’s mind like a picture.
But it wasn’t just a dream. It was a promise. A picture of what was yet to come. For just few months later, she was in bed and heard that loud whisper, “Hey. Pam. Hey.” But this time it wasn’t a dream. He was sitting on her bed, with his hand on her thigh, in the middle of the night. Micah said, “The Lord told me to take back what is mine and here I am.”
Micah returned home. The couple prayed together for the first time in twenty years. They say, “our family is complete in Christ. There is no unforgiveness between us.”
Truly, the Lord is restoring the lives of two very repentant people. Their children are thrilled and their faith is growing stronger every day.
For what God has spoken He will do(1Thes 5:24). Haven’t you heard? He hates divorce (Mal 2:16).
Will you join with me in praying for every married couple? That God would bring a great revival in our land. That He would turn the hearts of father’s toward their children and that husbands would rejoice in the wives of their youth. Pray that we would see marriage as God intended. Until death do us part. Period.
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Kim Sorgius
Kim is just a girl, crazy in love with Jesus. She's a single mother of 4, a passionate homeschooler and life-long student. After teaching 8 years in public school, she traded her M.A. in Early Childhood for sippy cups and homeschool co-ops. Kim is the owner and editor of The Homeschool Village and Not Consumed where she encourages others to rest victoriously in the hands of God, rather than allowing life's difficult circumstances to consume.
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There is a blog by a woman who experienced betrayal and healing in her marriage because of adultery, pornography, and her own childhood sexual abuse. She writes about the hope and healing that God can do in a marriage that has faced this reality. If you have time you might want to check it out or pass it along to this couple that has faced the “impossible”.
The blog is called Light in the Darkness (http://lightmeetsdarkness.blogspot.com/).
Thank you for sharing this story of redemption and restoration!
Christy
A Heartening Life (accewillard.blogspot.com)
Thanks for sharing Christy. I will have to check that site out. So glad you stopped by!
I needed this today! I have been praying for restoration of my brother’s marriage (ended in divorce last year) and my own marriage (still married, but one sided) for a long time now. Anything is possible if God is in the middle of it.
Oh, sweet friend, you are so very right. God is in the middle of it. He is ALL OVER it! Praying for you and your brother. I am so glad you were encouraged.
Can you tell me how God views a second marriage for two people who feel that they were meant to be together. My first marriage was based on the wrong things. No adultery took place but everyone writes how God hates divorce. We have taken steps to ensure this marriage is strong bug how ate we viewed?
I am by NO means a Biblical scholar or expert, so I hesitate to even take a stab at your question. But I am a woman who has been broken many times by divorce. I know the pain and I know the questions. While part of me wants to run from the confrontation of answering such a question, the other part wants to point to the ONE TRUE HEALER.
So, here is my humble opinion, the place where God has taken me as I’ve walked this very difficult journey…
Sin makes our lives a very messy place. There’s no way around that in this life. This is the exact thing that the Pharisees struggled so much with. God doesn’t fit in a neat little box. He can’t be contained and He can’t be explained. Sometimes that drives us nuts, but it’s still true.
Oh, how I wish I had a black and white answer to your question. In the story above, Pam KNEW that God had asked her to pray that her marriage be restored. For her, the answer was black and white. God told her something and she disobeyed. Her disobedience led to consequences for everyone involved. Like I said…messy.
The Bible does say that God hates divorce. (Mal 2:16). It also says that divorce and remarriage are not permitted. (Matt 5:31-32, 19:3-7) Some people take the position that divorce is permitted in the case of adultery, but I do not agree with that position, personally. I want you know that this revelation has led to a LOT of repentance on my part, as I too was part of a divorce many years ago.
Regardless of anyone’s position on remarriage, it is clear that divorce (without adultery) is definitely a sin and should be handled as such. We serve a gracious and merciful God who wants to forgive. Ask God to forgive you and then ask Him what you should do next. I do not believe that getting divorced from your present husband to remarry your first husband is always the answer. If you didn’t know the truth when you got a divorce and no kids are involved in the prior marriages, perhaps God would not lead you back there. It’s the old saying- two wrongs don’t make a right.
BUT- and this is a BIG BUT… I can’t answer this for you. Only God can. Get on your knees before Him and cry out to Him. Jer. 31:3 says that if we call to Him, He will answer us. He has done that for me. He will do that for you. If His prompting lines up with His word, you know that it’s His voice. Remember that He will never tell you to do something that is against His Word.
One word of caution, it would seem that if we have forgiveness that we might as well do whatever we please. But that is simply not true. We must be careful not to use grace as a license to sin. One can not file for a divorce expecting forgiveness anymore than one can commit adultery expecting God to simply smack his hand. That is rebellion and the consequences for rebellion are severe.
God is always just. That truth can not be undone by His love for us.
I’m praying for you, friend. Thank you for reading my blog and trusting us with your thoughts. Remember…no matter what, you are always a loved and treasured daughter of the KING!
For further reading on divorce and remarriage, here is a position statement by Pastor John Piper.
http://www.desiringgod.org/resource-library/articles/divorce-remarriage-a-position-paper
This was great Kim! I love a good redemption story! Thank YOU for sharing it! ~ Blessings sister, Amy
Why yes I will and thank you for praying for us! Marriage is hard work! My husband has a ministry to divorced men. He doesn’t believe it but I do. God keeps putting men in his life who are going through a divorce and it is hard on him especially since he was a child of divorce but I keep telling him God must believe he can love those men through a hard thing best!
Ha! I can relate to his denial. Sometimes it takes a long time for someone to realize that God is using them. Just the other day someone someone referred to my “ministry” I thought- what on earth is she talking about.
The truth is, we ALL have a ministry. We’ve all been called to it. We’ve just not all been called to be Billy Graham or Beth Moore. Each calling looks a little different. Perhaps like encouraging people in failing marriages. I’m thankful for your husband. Men of God can be hard to find. But the truth must be heard! Blessings.