Somewhere between the pointing of fingers and the discontentment of Facebook, is the reality of the hard life. The moments where someone else always seems to have it better than I do. That place where I find myself often arguing with God over the “she gets.”
If I’m not careful, the “she gets” carry me away to an imprisoning island of discontentment. An island that promises crystal clear waters and sandy white beaches, but delivers thorny bristles and a bitter taste of selfishness.
Instead of mercy for a hurting friend, my heart delivers envy of the worst kind. This, friend, is where I get into trouble…comparing situations with a critical eye. For every up comes with a down. Every rainbow, a drop of rain.
You would think by now that this obvious truth would run deep in my heart. But it doesn’t. The grass still seems a little greener over there sometimes. I still buy the lie that if I just had what “she gets” then my life would be better. This fallacy fails to recognize the blatant truth…HER LIFE ISN’T BETTER. Just different. And while I may find it gut-wrenching when she complains about one night alone, knowing I have faced 912, that really doesn’t make my circumstances worse. Just different.
For if I continue living here in this barren island of discontentment, I will find myself empty and alone.
She did not intend to imply that her life is pitiful. It’s my circumstance that hears that lie. And if I agree with it, I’m rowing a sinking ship to that island. Instead, I must choose to bear the pain and have mercy for her situation. Not judgement. For don’t you remember, I don’t know the whole story.
He asked me to love. Without abandon. Without condition. Without judgement. Without envy over circumstance. For yes, “she gets” but so do I.
Give thanks in all circumstances, for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus, for you. 1 Thess 5:18