He had abandoned their marriage for greener grasses, with a claim that he no longer loved her. The same claim that shattered my own heart and that of so many others. The pain pressed deep.
“I don’t love you anymore.”
Thrown around so casually, in complete denial of all that was good in his marriage. Drowning out the birth of their son, the thrill of their first home, and the hundreds of beautiful memories. The words were loud and clear, but the claim was one big fat lie. Watch…
If you can’t see the video…click here.
Friend, don’t keep reading until you’ve watched that video, I mean it. If you are thinking about giving up on your spouse, you CAN’T ignore this. (Plus I’m going to spoil the ending.)
The truth is… “I don’t love you anymore” is a lie. What they really mean is “I DECIDED to stop loving you.” What they really mean is…someone else has distracted me enough that I can’t remember why I love you.
Adultery is a trap. It’s a sin that fades from a little flirt to a broken home in just a matter of moments. The draw of temptation renders words meaningless. Threats pointless and promises empty. The pit grows so deep that the lies can not be discerned from the truth. He can not remember why.
I know that you have landed on this post because those shattering words were spat in your face. Oh friend, how I hurt for you.
Maybe someday he or she will remember. A place, a song or a smell will remind him of the promise and suddenly the other person is no longer that long-lost soul mate, but an ugly reminder of the destruction of his choice. If you would like to know more about fighting for your marriage or would like encouragement for the stand, please join the Facebook group, Intentionally Standing.
I imagine, though, that you came here with a bigger question—-> what will you do with the brokenness? How do you heal from such words?
I pray that you will visit my page, He/She left where I have compiled my favorite resources for you.
Do you have children? Learn how I helped my children here—> Not a Statistic: Parenting in a Broken World