Hi friend, this post is part of my series: parenting a hurting child. I pray that you will be blessed. Check out the other posts in the series and be sure to subscribe so you won’t miss any updates.
We marched all around the church that summer. Waving flags up and down the aisle while shouting something about an “Arky arky.” The days were short and God’s word filled them. Stories of Bible heroes grabbed our hearts as we marched in “The Lord’s Army.” It was just one of many summers spent at VBS memorizing God’s word. In fact, scripture was no stranger growing up. Sunday school, GA’s and even youth group promised to fill our hearts with God’s word. And it did. But it wasn’t enough. Without the constant use of scripture at home, they were just words temporarily filling space in our memories. Sure, some were etched and would never be forgotten, but most fell silent and meaningless.
When the storms began to rage in my home, only a few truths remained. I found myself desperate for the Word and my kids experienced that same hunger with me. We quickly learned that all scripture is God-breathed and useful for teaching…so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped (2 Tim. 3:16-17). Our situation was desperate and there was no doubt that we needed to be equipped. I had no hope to offer them, but scripture did.
Why should we teach them scripture?
As a parent, we are responsible for teaching our children. We teach them to use the potty, to eat with a fork, and to put on their shoes. In fact, every single thing that we do with our kids is teaching something. The question is…are we forgetting to teach the scriptures? God says, “Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.” (Deut. 11:19) No WHERE in His word does God actually command us to teach our kids math or reading. I’m sure He’s not against it, but he clearly commands that we teach them scripture. Funny that we are ever so guilty of tossing this aside as an “extra.” No, I’m not pointing fingers. This guilty party sulks at that reality just as much as you do.
If we miss this command, we leave our kids without the tools that they need to walk through life. Scripture is crucial. It comforts, it teaches, and it convicts. Without it, we are left wandering in the land of our own selfish judgments and our thoughts center around what WE think. Or worse…without scripture we are left hopeless when life’s circumstances begin to rage. You can’t stand on the promises if you don’t know them!
When do we teach them scripture?
We’ve already seen that scripture should be taught as a natural part of life…as we sit at home or walk along the road. Anytime…every time is a good time to teach God’s word. However it’s important to note that it’s not always appropriate to teach scripture in a heated moment. You know the kind. Little sister has just punched her brother because he was being a pest, tears are falling and anger raging. Sometimes this is NOT the right time to smack them in the face with God’s word. A simple reminder of what God’s word says would be in order, but if you haven’t taught this consistently…now is not the time to begin.
God DID NOT inspire scripture to condemn, but to convict. In fact, we are not called to condemn our children. We can teach them, show them, and remind them of scriptures, but we must leave the convicting up to God. Any judgement we pass would be condemnation. In the hear of the moment, this is best done by asking questions to get your child thinking…
Can you think of a verse that applies to this situation?
Do you think your actions are/were pleasing to God?
If you could do this again, what would you do differently?
Whose voice are you listening to? (Bible says we can’t serve two masters. So you are either obeying God or satan.)
What scripture do we teach?
Everything of course, but here are some of the favorites from parents just like you in the trenches. (Taken from a poll of my readers on Facebook a few week ago. Hey, are we connected on Facebook? I hope so!
Love up and love out… Luke 10:27, paraphrase came from Lara
This you know, my beloved brethren. But everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger. James 1:19
Flee the evil desires of youth and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart. 2 Timothy 2:22
Do everything without complaining and arguing. Philippians 2:14
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother—which is the first commandment with a promise—so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth. Ephesians 6:1-3
Be kind to one another and build each other up! 1Thess 5:11
He is before all things and in Him all things hold together. Colossians 1:17
Dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise. Phil 4:8
Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged,for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go. Joshua 1:9
Be kind and compassionate, forgiving one another. Ephesians 4:32
How do we teach them scripture?
Since we have already established that we need to teach them naturally, we will need to be diligent as parents to know the word ourselves. We can’t teach what we haven’t already put into our own hearts. But even if we have lots of God’s truth in our hearts, it’s still easy to forget in the moment. We can be intentional by using resources such as Wise Words for Moms and We Choose Virtues. (Get We Choose Virtues for 15% off with the code VIRTUE15)
When an issue seems to be dominating our home, I create a list of applicable scriptures and post them around our home. I’ve made two of these into free printables: God’s Truths for Hurting Hearts and Truths about Fear.
All of these things have served me well in the past, but recently I’ve found a new favorite that I want to share with you. The Child Training Bible is a beautiful resource. The kit helps families organize a special Bible that is used for teaching God’s word when discipline becomes an issue. There are tabs that link straight to the appropriate scripture. Perfect for that moment when you really can not remember the right verse to share with your child. The Child Training Bible covers pride, anger, lying, complaining and much more. Probably my favorite part is that each topic has many scripture references. Some of which are examples of what God wants to see instead of that negative issue that we are working to rid ourselves of.
Do you have a favorite parenting scripture? Share it with us!
This post is part of ihomeschool network’s Hopscotch series.
Last updated byat .