It’s often that people gaze upon my circumstances in amazement. I can’t say that I blame them. Even the cashier’s at Walmart wonder how I manage to homeschool 4 kids. They have no clue that I also work full-time and do this gig without a spouse.
But I think this “amazement” occurs because we have the idea that as parents it’s our job to do everything for our kids. I mean literally every single little thing. Most parents bring that sweet bundle of joy home from the hospital and suddenly swing into action. With every little whimper, they jump up to fix the problem. And it never stops.
If you don’t believe me, step into the average first grade classroom. In one corner you’ll see the kid who is sucking her thumb, can’t zip up her zipper or tie her shoes, doesn’t know her phone number or address, cries for mom most of the day, and can’t eat any of her lunch without an adult to open every package. Actually, you might find many such kids. But if you look closer, you’ll also see a latch-key kid who walks home alone, unlocks the door, fixes a snack, calls mom, and starts on his homework. (Yes, this is still legal most places and still happens everyday.)
I promise they exist. In literally every single classroom. To be fair, let me say up front that I’m not advocating either. The scenario demonstrates various parenting styles, which I would argue is a good thing. Who wants a bunch of cookie-cutter people? But it also demonstrates my point- even little children are capable of taking on responsibility, if they are given the opportunity.
So what does this have to do with your homeschool? Well, everything. You see, one of the things that I knew about parenting before I even started was that it was going to take some intentional training if I wanted my kids to grow up motivated to do much of anything in this world. I was able to easily see my students years later becoming middle schoolers, high schoolers and even college grads. One thing was obvious, those kids who could handle a little responsibility fared very well. They learned more, achieved more, and were socially well adjusted.
And if the experiential data wasn’t enough to motivate me, I had years of grad school classes that insisted that independent learning was the only way to grow healthy, motivated, intellectual thinkers. Of course, I was also fairly motivated by the desire to keep my kids from being in the 9th grade and needing me to button their pants, too. Haha.
Fortunately for me, my experience and intentional planning in the area of independent learning really paid off. I started very early with my kids developing chores and simple classroom habits in the kindergarten and first grade. Before my oldest was out of the 1st grade, I became a single mom and the whole game changed. Little by little, I stayed intentional about training them well and I’m so thankful that I did.
By the time I had to take on a full-time job, my kids were able to handle simple breakfasts, lunches, and most were old enough to manage their school day without much guidance from me. Without this, I honestly don’t know how I would have survived or how I would crawl out of the rubble of each day somehow finding the strength to stand up and walk to bed even.
So what’s the secret? Well, I’m glad you asked. I’ve recorded a 45 minute seminar teaching the practical steps for helping your children become independent learners. It’s my desire that you will be blessed by this FREE video on independent learning in homeschool.
Here is what we will discuss:
- 5 levels of independent learning
- How to know when your child is ready for the next level
- Step-by-step gradual implementation of an independent learning lifestyle
- Helpful curriculum and what facets to look for
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