I’ve been a mom for 4,383 days. Peanuts compared to some, really. In some ways it seems like “just yesterday” I first held my sweet girl in that hospital room. And in other ways it seems like I’ve been at this for quite some time.
One thing I’m sure of… it’s nothing at all like I thought it would be.
I’m sure you’d agree. All of my best laid plans and crazy ideals pretty much flew out the window before she could even talk. I quickly found myself lost in the trenches of diapers, sippy cups, and school decisions. I often felt like I couldn’t make it.
Each night I would fall into bed (too tired for a shower) with peanut butter in my hair, a pile of dishes lying on every counter in the kitchen, and Cheerios ground into the carpet of the living room. All I wanted was a clean house with dinner on the table for my husband and I simply couldn’t make that happen every day.
Instead I gave into the lies and found myself battling depression, defeat, and complete overwhelm.
I remember once a wise older mom trying to encourage me with these words, “It really doesn’t get any easier. When the kids are little they are physically exhausting. As they grow into teens, they become emotionally exhausting.” (So much for encouragement, huh?) But actually, it was.
As I walked away from her I saw something I hadn’t seen before. All moms struggle. This really is a hard job. It wasn’t that I was so completely inept I couldn’t get myself together. I had a difficult task with a hefty learning curve and I truly was giving it my all.
Which brings me to the point of this post. Maybe you feel like a failure, too. Perhaps when you look around all you can see is Pinterest-perfect families taunting you into self-destruction. My friend, this trend is one the world is facing in a huge way right now, but as Christians we do not have to give in.
The truth is, you are not a #momfail. Even on your worst day, you are so much more. And I can prove it.
Just think with me for a minute about all you know about God. First, He is the creator of the universe. He is only good all the time, and He purposely created you. He blessed you, chose you, and adopted you. None of that was an accident. I know you know these things. But stay with me while we take it a step further.
God is also sovereign. He controls all things, is above all things, knows all things. He is all powerful, all knowing, and all present. Right?
So put all of that together. It means God chose you to be a mom in His all knowing and all powerful wisdom. Serious! This is the truth. And it gets even better. Not only did He choose you for this task, He promises to make sure you have the tools you need to do it.
God equips us for what He has called us to do.
Sweet friend, it doesn’t get any better than that. We are not failures because God chose us and equips us for this parenting gig. No, everything won’t go the way we want it to and some days will make very little sense. But we must remember that God is ALWAYS and constantly working things for our good (Romans 8:28). He doesn’t stop. Every little trial, inconvenience, disobedience, broken toy, peanut butter spill, and mess up is another chance for us to grow in Christ.
Let’s throw out the #momfail fears and walk victoriously in the task that God has given us!
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