Have you ever stood at the edge of the ocean and just watched the waves roll in? One by one they swell up and crash into the sandy shore. Although they sometimes calm a bit, they never stop swelling up and spilling out onto the beach.
This reminds me of life. Trials, situations, and difficult circumstances roll into our lives daily. They swell with fury and crash violently into our souls. Although the pounding of the waves is constant, some are more calm, like a pile of dishes in the sink or a mountain of laundry on the couch. But then just when we are soaked, exhausted, and covered in sand from the every day life, a “monster wave” delivers life-threatening blows like illness, financial struggle, and brokenness.
If we aren’t careful, the waves will consume us. Our exhausted doggy-paddle turns into panic and we just let go. Lifeguards watch people do this every day. Unsuspecting swimmers get in over their head and turn to a panic that can claim their life. You see, you can’t survive in the ocean if you stop fighting the pull of the tide. If you don’t keep swimming, you’ll drown.
We all know this, but we often fail to translate the same principle to our lives. When the waves of life get larger, more frequent, and seem to never let up… we let go of the things that are holding us together. We let go of what’s most important and trade it for something we hope will dull the pain like over-spending, over-eating, alcohol, depression, and lust (obviously not an all-inclusive list).
Before long, we feel miserable about our choices and we long to have back what we lost.
I’ve been ever so guilty of this. Sometimes the waves take over my life and I find myself at the end of the day wondering if I really took care of my family. Did I listen to them? Did I hug them tight? Did I stop long enough to make sure they know that nothing is more important to me?
Friend, when life gets tough, it’s easy to take it out on our family both in ugly behavior and in neglect. We simply let go of that which is important to us in an attempt to keep from drowning in the surf. It makes no sense, but it’s true.
Are you guilty?
The good news is, we can fix this. We don’t have to live in despair, hopelessness, or shame. By the grace of God, we have the power to make things right and see forgiveness for not putting our family first. It’s very simple. You can take your family back in just 3 simple steps.
1. Ask God for help.
2. Ask your family for forgiveness.
3. Do something today to build family unity.
That’s it. There is no secret formula. No fancy-pancy rule book. Just get in there and make it right. You will be amazed at how graciously your family will accept your apology and how much they will enjoy any effort you do make to create memories that will permeate hearts and bond your family together no matter what.
So let’s get started today shall we?
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So how about you? Is this something you struggle with? Do you have ideas to share with us?