I remember so clearly the day my husband moved in with his new girlfriend. I remember it not for the particular details of the moment, but for how it threatened to destroy me.
Although shock held my tears captive as his brake lights faded in the distance, my heart was exploding from the pressure. I could literally feel the waters rising violently as they suffocated every hope and dream I had ever mustered.
It wasn’t until the door was closed that my legs were no longer able to hold me, and my face planted on the carpet in hysteria.
It’s funny how different the scene was 6 years later when my son was diagnosed with cancer.
What I remember most is the sound of his screams as he ran frantically up and down the hallway clutching his head. I remember the fury and hysteria he lashed out with when he woke up from the 2+ hour brain surgery to remove the massive tumor.
What I DON’T remember is feeling any of the same feelings I had felt back when my husband left.
Oh, I was certainly on my knees, but the words I uttered were no longer full of despair. Instead they were words of trust, belief, and hope in a God I knew was ONLY and ALWAYS good.
I know I don’t need to re-live the rest of either of these scenes for you to understand pain, heartache, and fiery trials because we’ve all been through hard things. Maybe for you it was a miscarriage, a cancer diagnosis, the death of a loved one, or a lost job that brought you to your knees.
Over the years, I’ve learned that life is full of trials that threaten to consume us. When we think of the possible perpetrators, we always think of these huge life-altering events, but these “big” things are rarely the culprits. Sure, there are people who never get back up when life knocks them down, but most of us hold on for our lives with no choice but to trust God.
So what then consumes us? What are the things that hem us in so tightly against the wall that we can’t breathe?
The truth is… it’s the small things that consume us the most.
Let’s consider first the definition of consume. Webster defines it as “to waste or burn away.” You see, when we think about a fire consuming a building we rarely consider that it is actually a step-by-step process. The fire starts in one outlet, creeps up a wall, down the carpet and fills the room. Then it creeps into another room. It all happens fast, but rarely does one spark ignite an entire house.
Our lives are consumed in much the same way. It’s those not-so-obvious circumstances that creep into one part of our life then another and another until we are “wasted” or “burned out.” It’s the one insensitive friend on top of the list of too many things to do that causes us to yell at our disobedient child and then drown ourselves in a bucket of ice cream. Which, by the way, makes us feel guilty, fat, and unloved. Can you see where I am going with this?
Little by little we are consuming ourselves and we don’t even know it. In fact, we are too busy trying to make it look better (ya know- on social media) and pretending that our lives look like everyone else’s to even notice the truth about it all.
But our negligence doesn’t change the facts. We are consumed. Burned out. Stressed out. Unhealthy. And most of all unhappy.
Day after day we get back on the hamster wheel, chasing some “perfect life” that we are certain has to be out there. We keep pushing forward, doing more and more, and feeling disappointed that we can’t seem to get there.
But all of that is about to change. If you are willing to let it, that is. You see, there is a secret to not letting life consume you. There is a way to do it all and have it all. The trouble is, we are just a little confused about the definition of “all.” We need to do a little re-defining and a little truth-claiming if we are going to fix this. So what do you say?
Are you in? Are you ready to become #NOTCONSUMED?
Oh I pray that you are! Over the course of the next 31 days, you will find little truths that will help you reclaim the life God intended for you to have. Each day will begin with an email from me, a challenge from God’s Word, and a practical step forward in being #notconsumed.
This FREE email series is for you if ANY of the following is true:
- You feel like you are drowning in the circumstances of life.
- The little things always seem to take over.
- No matter how hard you try, you just can’t seem to make changes in your life.
- Every day seems to get harder with no relief in your circumstances.
- You can’t understand why everyone else always seems to have it better than you do.
- You don’t know how to trust God with the hard things in your life.
- Life seems so unfair.
- You know God is good, but wish you could have some of the goodness that your friends have.
- Your marriage and family life are on the rocks.
- You go to bed at night feeling disappointed.
- Although you do your best, nothing ever seems to get better.
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Through practical tools & Bible-based resources, Kim Sorgius is dedicated to helping your family GROW in faith so you can be Not Consumed by life’s struggles. Author of popular kid’s devotional Bible studies and practical homeschooling tools, Kim has a master’s degree in education and curriculum design coupled with over 2 decades of experience working with kids and teens. Above all, her most treasured job is mother and homeschool teacher of four amazing kiddos.