I almost never leave my home without it happening.
Someone spies my “outlandishly” large family and gasps. From out of their mouth comes words that should never be said. Words that are sometimes hurtful. Sometime baffling. But always leave me unsure of exactly how one should respond to such audacity.
Oh, how I want to say something really saucy when a complete stranger comments like this. I honestly do not find that my birth control methods or family choices are really of public concern. But that is simply not the point. People will still say things, and I must learn to respond in a godly manner. Because my ability to extend grace to this stranger is an eternal matter.
Perhaps you can relate to these questions that are most often asked of me. The next time you find your self biting your tongue, I pray that one of these responses will prove useful.
Are they all yours?
Yes, God has blessed me beyond measure.
How do you do it?
With God’s amazing strength, I choose to enjoy everyday for the adventure that it is.
Don’t you know how this happens?
Oh yes, I am so thankful that God has blessed me with this special gift.
Are you crazy (don’t they drive you crazy)?
Training and loving my children is a wonderful privilege. Yes, I’m crazy about it!
So, do you want anymore?
I would be honored. I am looking forward to seeing what God has planned for our family.
Don’t you want to just kill yourself?
While parenting is indeed a sacrifice, my children are worth it. I am so proud to be their mom.
Do they all have the same father?
Yes, their father is irresistible. 🙂
Why would you have so many children?
Children are a heritage of the Lord, a rich blessing and one way that I can bring Him glory.
Did you forget to take your birth control?
You know, I love that God is always in control.
I guess you have your hands full, huh?
Oh yes, thank you! Both my hands and my heart are so amazingly full.
When those insensitive comments come, it may be the only chance that I have to express the wonder and amazement that children bring to my life. It may be the only time this person hears that children are a blessing. Even if they are messy, too loud in the store, or rowdy in the waiting room… they are a blessing and an honor.
Disclaimer…I do NOT think that 4 children is a large family, but apparently much of the world does! I’m guessing that the average cashier at the grocery store would be baffled at a homeschool convention…where 4 kids is a rather small family!