Secrets to Making Time for God
I learned that too busy for God equaled disaster. I’ll tell you my story and I’ll show you all my busy mom secrets for finding time with God.
I can’t look back on my life and find a time when I didn’t think I was busy. First it was the demands of college exams, loud roommates, study hall, and late night jobs. Then came early married life with toddlers running around and fears that we’d never again get a full night’s sleep. Now I homeschool 4 kids, middle school to high school, run a business full time from home, and I’m a single mom.
You see, I’ve always been busy, regardless of the circumstances in my life. Too busy in fact.
I spent the first 30+ years of my life making good excuses for not doing the things I said I wanted to find time to do. I’ve been too busy to read my Bible or pray, and even skipped church all together. It wasn’t that I didn’t want to do these things. I was just always thinking there would be a time when I would be less busy.
Kinda funny, huh?
Well it wasn’t so funny when my perfect little life went up in flames. When I was pregnant with my youngest, my husband decided that this marriage thing wasn’t for him. In the wake of incredible heartache and pain, I got a very rude awakening in regards to what my spiritual life really looked like. When I needed God most, my 3+ decades of lazy Christian life didn’t have much to offer me. The few verses and stale prayers I had managed to hang onto weren’t enough to weather the storm.
I got desperate. Then I actually started reading my Bible and praying. I started longing to get to church and anxiously awaiting a few minutes of quiet time to spend with the Lord. During those early days, I would sometimes read the Word for hours. I even read the entire Bible through 3 times in one year. Nothing in my time schedule actually changed. In fact, it got worse. What changed was me.
When I needed God, I found time for Him.
Friend, I’m not one to smack people around, but will you let me ever-so-gently give you this warning? We don’t just need God when our lives are in pieces. We need God today. Right now. We need Him to help us with all the little things in our lives that threaten to consume us.
I know it’s hard. I know what your schedule looks like. So I’m not going to just tell you to make this a priority and then leave it there. Let me show you practical ways that I sneak in quiet time with God… even in this crazy busy single mom life of mine! I pray this will be a blessing to you as you look to find ways to fit God into your daily life.
Secrets to finding time with God
START IN THE MORNING
No whining about how God doesn’t tell us what time we have to spend with Him or how your little Johnny gets up at 4am every day. Trust me, you’d be preaching to the choir. I’ve used all of those excuses too. The difference is, I stopped making them. Now that I’m on the other side, I can tell a difference in my day if I don’t start it with God and I don’t like that. Once I started, I became addicted to the benefits. You will too.
So let’s make the change tomorrow morning. Here’s the secret — don’t get all legalistic about it. You don’t have to study 8 chapters of commentary, sing 4 hymns, and recite a 45-minute prayer in order to get the benefit of starting your day with God. Just do something. Anything. And grow it from there.
I started with prayer. I’d get up, sit in a chair, and just talk to God. Sometimes it was only 5 minutes before my kids got up. I’m telling you, that 5 minutes of setting my mind on the right things changed the entire day for me. Then I added the reading of one psalm each day. Sometimes I followed it up with singing, sometimes I didn’t.
In the early days, I had 3 children under the age of 7 and a newborn. There was no one else in the house, so there were many days when I didn’t time it just right and couldn’t fit the Bible reading in at all. Over time I got better and my kids became more consistent. Many years later, they all know that they are not permitted to open my door in the morning. I only close it when I am having quiet time with the Lord (not all night long) so they know to wait.
One great way I found to spend time with the Lord in the morning is by using a prayer journal. We’ve created a beautiful journal that will help you to organize your thoughts, keep track of your short and long term prayers, and you can spend as much or as little time on it each day as you have available!
Now that my youngest is in middle school and they all know not to interrupt, I spend quite a good bit of time with God each morning praying, meditating on the Word, studying, reading, and singing. Generally I spend about 30-45 minutes on this. I start at 6am and most days the kids don’t get up until 8:30. Once I finish my quiet time, I work for a while.
Here are the resources that I use most during my morning time with God:
- Prayer Journal
- Devotional Journal
- The Valley of Vision
- ESV Study Bible
- Treasury of David commentary series
- Wiersbe commentary series
But please don’t wait until your kids are old enough to ‘leave the door shut’ in order to start your day with God. You’ll miss so much! Start now and grow into it. FIVE MINUTES WITH GOD IS BETTER THAN ZERO. My schedule only came after years of consistent practice! Don’t get discouraged by that. Here are some solid resources that you could use in just 5 minutes a day.
- The Valley of Vision
- Hope for Each Day
- Morning and Evening (Daily Readings)
- Keep a Quiet Heart
- Meet Me in the Meadow
FIT GOD INTO YOUR MIDDAY ROUTINE
The more I learned about God, the hungrier I became. I wanted to know more and experience more of His blessings. So I got a lot more creative about how I could do that. Aside from enjoying books with the children during our homeschool, I also spend time listening to sermons on Sermon Audio or the Podcast app. There are so many great preachers out there to enjoy! I also listen to godly music throughout my day which serves as another reminder of what I want to be focusing on.
Of course, you can’t trust a preacher just because he has a sermon on these apps. Do your homework and make sure he’s solid. Here are a few of my favorites:
CONSIDER AN EVENING ROUTINE
When the kids were very little, the bulk of my study time was done at night when they were all in bed. I sold the TV for food and seriously never looked back. Spending time with God was so much better anyway! Initially, I used Bible studies written by reputable authors to help me with my study. Over the years, I began to move more into commentaries and study Bibles instead.
Now that I do the bulk of my study in the morning, I use the evenings for spiritual growth. I might pick up a little Bible study or a great book to encourage me in an area that I am struggling in. Sometimes I read for a long while. Other times I read just a few pages.
I love focusing my mind on good and pleasant things before bed. It makes all the difference in how I wake up!
Some of my favorite Bible study or Christian growth resources:
- Run the Race
- Walking in the Spirt
- Choosing Gratitude
- Keep a Quiet Heart
- God is More than Enough
- Changed into His Image
- Anything by Jerry Bridges
OTHER WAYS TO FIND TIME
I wanted you to see my current schedule, but I know this isn’t always possible. When the kids were younger, I had to be very creative about finding time. I would take them outside and sit at the table and read my Bible while they played. Or put the little ones in the bath and sit in the room with my Bible while they splashed around. (Why do kids like that so much anyway?)
If things got super rough, I’d grab my Bible and go into the bathroom. Yes, they stick their fingers under the door, but it’s still quieter in there.
I also would spend the first half hour of nap time reading the Bible, if I couldn’t find any other time. Yes, this was sacred time to me and I needed to use it to get things done. But I learned quickly that God was more sacred and that somehow the dishes always worked themselves out.
Whatever stage of life you find yourself in, I pray that this post will help you find some ways to sneak in that much-needed time to refresh your soul. Don’t get caught up in being perfect. Just be obedient. The rest will come naturally.
Your turn===> do you have any secrets? Share them with us!
Through practical tools & Bible-based resources, Kim Sorgius is dedicated to helping your family GROW in faith so you can be Not Consumed by life’s struggles. Author of popular kid’s devotional Bible studies and practical homeschooling tools, Kim has a master’s degree in education and curriculum design coupled with over 2 decades of experience working with kids and teens. Above all, her most treasured job is mother and homeschool teacher of four amazing kiddos.
Such great tips. Thanks for sharing and for the reminder plainly and simply that 5 minutes with God is better than zero…. I love your helpful posts and look forward to reading them! 🙂
Happy New Year… may God bless you in 2016 (It’s almost midnight NYE here in Australia!)
Thank you for your sweet words. So glad this was helpful to you and Happy New Year!
Great information! So true that you are always too busy regardless of your season of life. I have been through it all from toddlers to teenagers. I am now a retired grandmother, and it seems like I am busier than ever. You have to make spending time with God a priority, and oh what a difference it makes in your day! Kim, I, too, look forward to reading your posts. You are such an inspiration! Keep up the good work! Happy New Year!
Thank you for your sweet encouragement and testimony.
Last year, in January, our preacher challenged us to read Psalm 46 every morning for a week before getting out of bed or reaching for the cell phone. My husband and I did this challenge and after a week we decided to read all of the Psalms starting at the beginning. Since then, we have finished the Psalms, went to the New Testament and are in Revelation now. Every morning we have started our day with a chapter of Scripture. It’s been a great habit for us!
This has truly blessed me. I have 3 boys all under the age of 6, married, full time nursing student, & my heart so desires to be close to God. However, the flesh is weak but the spirit is willing. Kim I may never see you until we make it to Heaven but if this makes any difference in your life I want you to know your daily inspirational messages are a Godsend & I pray that God takes you further than your mind could ever imagine. God bless you woman of God.
Thank you for your sweet words. I’m so glad this blesses you. 🙂
Great ideas. Thank you for sharing!
Thank you!
I’m enjoying your study, # not consumed, I started on day one, but not beating myself up that I’m only on day 4. Savouring the time. I love your heart, and I don’t know how you do it as a single Mom! I’m only on day four, but I love your style, and wish we were friends (one sided, I realize, as you share your story and your heart). Add Alistair Beihg (Truth for life) to your list of teachers. I think you will appreciate his teaching.
I love your post SO much!! I am also a single mom who home schools but I have 3 kids! Right now I am doing the main chunk of my Bible study at night, and I love your idea of doing it in the morning and then reading a season-appropriate book at night. I would love to spend an hour or so in the morning with God BEFORE my day gets going as opposed to at the end of the day when I’m sometimes too tired to even comprehend what I’m reading. Thank you so much, your post was so helpful and encouraging and I believe the Lord brought me to it! Many blessings to you and your family!
Sarah
Thank you for your sweet encouragement. I’ll be praying for you as you make changes. 🙂
Audioverse.org is a good sermon resource too, it helped get me through my single parenting days.
My friend and I, a few months ago, started keeping each other accountable reading the Word for 10 minutes each day. Whether its 5, 10, or 30 minutes, I think its great to start with what realistically can happen EVERY DAY. And like you said, you then can gradually increase over time. Thanks for sharing this!
thank you for this! this is definitly me right now but i choose to make time from now. May God help me…
I love everything about this post. It’s so easy to make excuses as a mama in busy mode but that reminds us that we need Him all the more especially in the younger years of our mothering. I would typically make the “I don’t have time” excuse but actually more often than not believed a lie of the devil that if I wasn’t going to spend adequate time in the Word then I shouldn’t at all. Then, when God did put hunger in my heart for His Word I ended up feeling discombobulated about where to start. This gave me a great reminder to get going and give it all to God.
Good post, thank you!
When I’d read about Mary and Martha and how Jesus told her she was worried about too many things and not choosing the best, I always thought, “well, somebody had to feed those 15 or 20 hungry men!” Then I realized this story is literally one chapter after Jesus fed the 5000. Literally, she could have given Jesus leftovers and He could have fed them all with that!
It’s not that we don’t have the responsibility to feed our families–most of us have been given that job by God. But it’s about priorities. I loved your sentence, “the dishes always worked themselves out.”
Sometimes when I feel down, reading content about god makes me feel alive. Thanks for posting content like this. Keep on posting!
I am happy to see this article again. I remember that I also find excuses, but I learned that we can make time with God if we want to, and I feel more at peace after talking to him.