“The Birds and the Bees Talk”
I think that might be the most frightening phrase that parents hear. Just thinking about it makes butterflies flutter in my stomach and sweat drop from my palms. Yeah. I’m as nervous as you are about this part of parenting.
Will the timing be right?
Will I say too much?
Will I say too little?
But unless our children literally live under a rock (and they can’t), they will be exposed to sexuality in our culture FAR SOONER than we may desire. So what are we going to do about it?
Will we let the world tell our children how to think about God’s most precious gift to married couples? Or will we impart God’s truth into their perception on this subject. Because you do realize that it will be one or the other. That thought is very convicting to me.
You see, it has become increasingly obvious to me that even though I homeschool, have NO television, attend a VERY conservative church, and make every attempt to keep advertising out of our home, the sexuality “agenda” of the world will still creep in here. I can’t keep it out. I must teach my children to refute it. I must teach them what is right, so they will recognize the worldly thoughts when they encounter them.
Is it possible to have this important talk with my children “too late?” Of course it is. Too late is that point when the ideas of the world have penetrated their thinking and the instruction of God becomes “old fashioned” or “out of style.” You see, I’m fairly convinced that if the world gets to them before I do, then it will e far harder to help them see God’s true design for sex in marriage.
Enter, The Talk by Luke Gilkerson. It’s a 7-lesson study designed for children ages 6-10 and I think it’s just what the doctor ordered. The core of the study is God’s word with a little bit of science sprinkled it. That’s the way it should be!
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Things that I love about this study:
*You are encouraged to tell your children NOT to share info with other children, as these types of conservations are supposed to be between parents and children only. Oh I love this (and it has been my motto for years- it works!)
*The anatomy pictures in this study are perfect. It’s just enough to help children understand how your body works and how males/females are different, but it’s not inappropriate.
*While the study is designed for ages 6-10, you are given specific things to think about in order to determine your child’s readiness.
*It is meant to be discussed over a period of time, not in one sitting: 7 lessons that are about 10-15 minutes each. AND, you are encouraged to remember that as long as the culture is sending sexual messages to your children, you should be daily combatting them with commentary and pointing to God’s Word.
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I do love this study and can personally recommend it. I would of course suggest that you read through the entire thing before you begin talking with your children. I would also suggest that you consider bringing nature into the picture. God has created plants and animals that reproduce and lend much to the discussion. Be sure if you do this that you point out that God intended so much more than simple reproduction for His people. (The study does a great job at pointing this out!)
The good news is, they also have 2 new followup books out. One for helping your kids through puberty and the next on relationships. All 3 are staples around our house.
What do you think? Have you had “the talk” with your kids?